I've received lots of questions about my comment in
this thread about Kennedy not qualifying for the school system, so instead of answering a bunch of emails I figured I would just put it here.
So this story starts in March 2004 when my son Kameron was diagnosed with PDD-NOS. (I swear, this story is really about Kennedy, bear with me!.) Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS) is on the Autism spectrum. Kameron was diagnosed shortly after he turned two (after 6 months of battling with dumb doctors). Frank and I were actually relieved when he was diagnosed because it meant Kam was FINALLY elegible to receive services like speech therapy! (He wasn't speaking AT ALL at this point; he was constantly, obsessively lining everything up; he was obsessed with anything that was in a circle shape: He used to carry pool rings around with him EVERYWHERE.) We were submerged into the world of Early Intervention, therapies and IFSPs. It was overwhelming but we knew Kam was getting the help he so badly needed.
Two months later, Kennedy was born and we learned she had Down syndrome. Our world literally crashed around us. We were completely shocked and devastated as we were handed information from the 1970s and told we could still put her up for adoption. (That's another story for another day.) The only good thing was I knew exactly who to call and where to get her help. Kam's EI coordinator took great care of us and got Kennedy all set up with services right away.
Six months later, Kameron turned 3 and he transitioned into the school system. We did his first IEP and he started a Special Needs pre-school the day after his birthday. He had an amazing teacher and totally thrived in this environment. He learned how to read before he was 4 and was talking more and more every day. His teacher and I became friends and she totally fell in love with Kennedy. We were both so excited for the day that Kennedy turned 3 and could go to her class!
Fast forward to March 2007. It was time for Kennedy's transition meeting. I went in thinking this would just be a formality. I was going to get information about getting her into the system, which I pretty much already knew, and get ready for her first IEP. I had been taking Kennedy into the classroom where she would be going to get her used to the class and the teacher and they were brushing up on their sign language and we were all SO excited! Then... let me choose my words carefully... then it didn't work out as planned. We went in with Kennedy's latest evals and we were told based on her scores that Kennedy would not qualify for the Special Needs preschool.
My conversation with the director of Special Ed went something like this:
ME: WHAT?!?! She has a 70% delay in gross motor and delays across the board in everything but social, hearing and vision.
HER: Yes, but you don't need to walk to go to school... all her other areas (social, speech, fine motor, cognitive, self help, hearing and vision) are all under a 25% delay which disqualifies her.
ME: But she has DOWN SYNDROME!!!!
HER: So what? Has she taken an IQ test because I bet she would pass.
ME: GRRRR So what am I supposed to do with her next year? She's losing all her EI services!
HER: Put her in a typical preschool.
ME: OK she'll be 3... if I put her in a typical 3 year old class she would be run over! She's the size of a 1 year old and definitely cannot hold a candle in ANY area to a 3 year old!
HER: so put her in a 2 year old class.
(At this point, I'm pretty sure she saw the smoke coming out of my ears.)
HER: Can I ask you something? What do you plan for Kennedy when she goes to Kindergarten?
ME: I want her fully included in a regular Kindergarten class, of course.
HER: Then WHY do you want her in a special needs preschool? That is NOT her LRE (Least Restrictive Environment)! She is fully capable of being with typical peers and will probably gain more from them than being in the special ed class.
ME: But can you tell me a typical preschool teacher is going to have the time or knowledge to help her? To give her the attention she needs? She'll be one of twelve and one teacher can only go so far... in the special ed preschool there will be a teacher AND 2 aides not to mention an IEP that says EXACTLY what she needs to work on. Beyond that, the teacher there knows her and loves her and can't wait to have her in class. I DO think this is her LRE.
HER: Well I can tell you right now she's not going to qualify. We WILL provide her services, she'll get PT and ST once a week for one hour but you'll have to bring her to our center, not a school.
*sigh* I left in tears, her EI who was there with me left kind of in a fog and that was that.
After a LOT of prayer and extensive conversations with Frank, my mom, the teacher of the special needs class, her EI, her therapists, and other moms with kids with Ds, we decided that maybe Kennedy would be better off in a typical preschool. She went to a program at one that was associated with EI before she turned 3 that has a mix of special needs and typical kids. They agreed to let her go into the 2 year old class so we were getting all of that put into place when she was diagnosed with Leukemia and school was obviously put on the back burner.
SO now we're finally starting the process again, and I've been told if I REALLY wanted to fight it we could find loop holes to get her into the Special Needs preschool. A lot has happened though, she would have a different teacher and it would be at a different school and right now I truly believe she will be better off in the other school with typical kids to be role models. She really is doing so, so well and I'm excited to see what she will learn in school... we actually go tomorrow to fill out all the paperwork and she starts on MONDAY!!!
SO what started out as a stressful, miserable situation has turned out for the best. One of these days I'm really going to remember that the Lord has His hands in all things and He's working things out for the best for Kennedy and all of us. Sometimes it's so hard to see the big plan when I'm in the midst of a small storm.
So that's my lovely transition story. If you're reading this and you have a child with Down syndrome who is getting ready to transition into the school system, please know it's NOT this hard everywhere. Now if you live in MY county... save yourself the trouble and move now. Kidding. Sort of. :o)