Did someone SERIOUSLY write this*? Do people SERIOUSLY think this is true? Apparently so... and apparently I'm not qualified to comment on it since Kennedy is still little. This has got to be one of the most disgusting things I have ever read. Seriously.
Since I can't speak from experience with my own child yet, maybe I should go tell this
jerk person about Jessica. I have seen Jessica maybe 12 or 13 times. I always speak to her, but she's shy and she stays focused on her work. I usually get a "hello" and she usually gives me this look like, "how do I know you?" haha. Jessica works in the PACU (surgery recovery area) at Vanderbilt Children's Hospital. When one patient leaves, she cleans up the room and remakes the beds. I've seen her folding linens and restocking cupboards. I've heard her interacting with the nurses, asking them what they're going to do for the weekend and then she tells them her plans. I have to admit, she has more of a social life than I do. I know that she cooks her own meals and I know that she brings a lunch every day that makes everyone's mouths water. I asked her once if she would teach me how to cook... and she firmly told me NO! HA! I've seen her clock herself into work and go about her duties. No one was there to hold her hand or tell her what to do. If any of the nurses need something, they ask Jessica. She knows where everything is, probably because she put it there. She is beautiful and funny and smart and I'm pretty sure if you asked her, she would tell you she has a great job and a great life. She is appreciated and loved by her co-workers and by parents like me who get a little teary whenever we watch her go about her day. Yes, maybe I should tell this person about Jessica... and the fact that Jessica has Down syndrome. Seriously.
Or maybe, I should tell this person who happened to be born in the Ukraine, that a lot of wonderful families are filling out tons of paperwork, raising lots of money, and opening their hearts and their homes to a child from HER country, who has been tossed aside to die because they have Down syndrome. Maybe I should tell her that these children are going to have wonderful lives here in the United States. They will be cherished and adored and they will grow up to enjoy their adulthood immensely because there are families HERE who don't think their children will grow up "into incomprehensible, obstinate, sullen, capricious, and sometimes very violent adults". Seriously.
Feel free to go tell this person what you think. What a sad, sad world this would be without children and adults with Down syndrome in it. I'm so thankful that God gave me my daughter, and that we're about to be doubly blessed when Kellsey joins our family. And when they grow up into the wonderful adults I know they will be, you better believe I'm going to tell this person all about it. Seriously.
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I just read that! I am so mad that I could spit! (But I am indoors...) I doubt any comments left on that blog would be of any good. So sad that people devalue life like that!
I can't even dignify his post with a comment. All I have to say is...Karma's a bitch! It sickens me that "American Way" is in the title of his blog. Give me a break!
I have no words....
That makes me sick.
I can not come up with a decent response at this time to the MORON who wrote that post without lowering myself to the level!!!! To think I have adopted 6 of the *crippled* children and 2 happen to also have *mental disabilities*
Makes me sick....
This is incredibly sad to me. What makes me even more sad are the ugly comments left on this guy's blog. That's what he's looking for. This guy is ignorant and self-seeking and doesn't even deserve to be answered. I have to say, though, articles and blogposts such as these make my stomach hurt. Some of us chose not to have prenatal testing because it wouldn't make a difference. Some of us chose prenatal testing because it wouldn't make a difference. We just wanted to educate ourselves. This guy makes it sound as if we did a serious injustice to our children and to society by choosing life. Incredibly sad.
ok, Im taking a deep breath and heading over there....
oh my, i had no idea that people like that exist.
optional illness!! i could have puked by what he meant by that.
We all know where this person is going when they die. That makes me sick!
I cannot even put into words the disgust I am feeling now.
I don't want to give that person any of my time. What a jackass. I can't believe it. People like him need to be eliminated from society. Had his mother known what an ass he was maybe she would have aborted in utero?! Sick, sick, sick. And I am sorry he's going to be getting a lot of attention. Maybe if everyone ignored him he would just go away!!!
I honestly do not know what to say except this saddens me more than I can express in words. Just yesterday I read something that an animal (cant really call him a man) wrote on a DS group on fb (he was from Spain)....it said something about they should all be drowned at birth and they were all just retards....all I could do was cry when I read those words, if these people only knew the true joy that our precious little ones are...they will never know the true joy and love of life and I think that they are the ones missing out on much more than they will ever realize. I really can not believe that people have these horrible feelings towards others
Well, I am shocked by what that person said on the blog, but I really feel sorry for this person for the devil is in his/her heart. At least we all know that all children are gifts from God, and we should treat them all as such. I know I will be praying for this person to find God and the truth soon, before he and the devil do any more harm to other souls out there that might agree with that kind of thought. I haven't ever met you or your children in person, but from what I have heard from other Vandi familys and from your blog, I know that you are strong enough to handle people like this with your head held high, and with God's light shining through. Take care
Wow. I happened to know a very beautiful person who is in her 50s with DS. I was actually a live-in caregiver/roommate for her and another woman who had several other disabilities. I was with these older, beautiful, interesting, caring and funny women almost 24/7 for an entire year.
It is really late here and I don't want to type a comment or any type of response to you or "this person" without having a clear head to think. But be looking for it. :)
Oh my gosh that makes me so angry,this guy needs to get out of this country. I'm not even going to waste my time writing a response to him because I know he enjoys laughing at mad people.
OMG, I don't know how you were able to see straight to write such an eloquent response to this. I was mad from the first sentence suggesting people should abort anyone who isn't "perfect". First of all those tests aren't 100% accurate, but even still who's to say what perfect is?
SPEECHLESS!
absolutely sickening... I wrote a comment saying "So.. pretty much I should have been aborted???"
I left my comments! I have worked maternity for 14 yrs and those tests for abnormalities are far from 100%. I know of many who would have been aborted for that persons reasons and were born healthy.
I know a Bosnian woman who is just as bad. She has a young lady who works under her with Downs. She has no patience with her, thinks that she shouldn't be there. However she does a good job but needs to be taught differently.
I guess it takes all kinds. Can't change someones ignorance, stupid is forever!
Ginger C. Iowa
Ironic that in his "About Me" section, he states that he fights for individual rights. Whatever.
How sad... The lack of empathy and respect for a human life is horrifying! DS children can still live fulfilling lives and contribute to society, just like anyone. They may face certain challenges, but they are still valuable. Kennedy is a doll and I enjoy reading about her! (And her siblings!) :)
I just want to ask him "So, is ignorance bliss, because I think you might be an authority on ignorance."
Karen in UT
we dont have DS in our family but both my first two children had heart birth defects. I did I try not to have a 3rd and 4th? no, I made sure we did all test so we could be prepared not abort. Yes we spent lots of money and will continue to spend lots of insurance money on child number 2 but would I aport? holy cow that guy was horrible.
I threw up when I read that earlier today. Seriously. And the first image that came to my mind, was of two weeks ago, when I was leaving the gym after toddler time with the 1 and 4 year olds I nanny, the 4 year old was very upset, until about 7 adults, all with downs, camet through the door, and at least 3 of them got on their knees and spoke straight to him, asking him what was wrong, giving him a high five, and a hug... calling him "buddy"... those adults with downs had SO much compassion for a little boy who was disappointed about leaving the play area, and they were able to console him when I had to be the bad guy... Some people are so incredibly naive.
I didn't make it past the "optional illness" part.........ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm not in any shape to even think about this tonight...a dear friend lost her husband to cancer tonight. Wonder if that's an optional illness, too. I mean in our state assisted suicide is now legal so....will let the Lord deal with fools like this!
This is a long section but it's filled with such words of comfort....praying right now!
Revelation 21:1-7 And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea. And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are true and faithful. And he said unto me, It is done. I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. I will give unto him that is athirst of the fountain of the water of life freely. He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.
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Whoa! Poor misinformed bloggers! I actually feel kind of sorry for them! Those are some truly crazy, and misinformed posts! :/
That is sad. I'm not going to reply because I fear reason and compassion are lost on this guy. Will pray that God will turn his heart.
OMG!! I can't believe someone had the indecency to write a post like this!
It's really too bad that we don't have genetic testing for ignorance!
I thought we had rid this world of the "Hitler's" out there!
OMG...how tragic and scary that there are people in our midst who think like this man. I am literally sick from reading his garbage. I am disabled and realize not all disabilites are alike and what I have is genetic so I guess my mother should have done away with my sister and myself. Even if I had known I would become disabled I would have done nothing different and this guy makes me want to puke.
I cannot fathom that someone has that much hatred toward others. I usually wish a child with a disability on someone like that because it's the best way to show them what love is, but I couldn't bring myself to wish that on any child with this man.
wowzers. i read it. i commented. but one thing we need to always remember is that writer also needs to be shown our love, because he obviously needs our prayers and christ in his life.
At first I thought this was some sort of April Fool's joke...wow! That's all I can say...wow! And what an ass! I should probably be praying for her, but I'm so angry I would rather run her over with my car.
He's ignorant..no question.
The "person" doesn't deserve your comments or anyone elses. Doesn't deserve the hits on his/her site. Sometimes you have to know when to walk away and say to yourself "Lord please pray for this poor lamb who knows nothing of our plight" and let it go. Easier said then done. But its what I would do. I know how angry you are over it. But truthfully think about it, does it make you love your daughter any less? Or make you love the children with DS that you know any less? If not then let it go. All it will do is let the Devil in. Do you want that?
Man I just read what that "person" wrote and I am beyond sick about it..he really must not even have a heart to say that about someone..horrible! I left his page very angry at him and thinking man I'm not even a violent person but I WANT TO KICK HIS BUTT!!! Please give Kennedy an extra sqeeuze for me today and tell her she's great!!
I posted a response, I agree that I don't know what good it would do. It is so very sad that he believes this way. I will definitely be praying for him.
Renee, I wish you would delete this link from your site. It doesn't deserve space on your blog.
Lillian
Absolutely disgusting. She's talking about eugenics and supports such a Hitlerian attitude that frightens me. Of course, most parents don't blog about their adult children... not because they're not loved and valued, but because they're adults and hopefully living their own life to the fullest. But I do see adults with Down syndrome self-advocating on their own blogs or speaking in public or doing other amazing things. She needs a wake up call and serious slap in the face.
Well said girlfriend! I don't feel anger so much as I do sadness for this person who beliefs are so antiquated.
I attempted to read "this person's" blog and just couldn't finish it. What a rediculous, uneducated view. I want to say so many more things but that would mean I have given this person some of my day. So I won't do it!!!
I used to help care for 2 men with DS (they were in the late 40's) who lived in an apt together. They were able to live on their own but needed supervision, transportation etc. One worked at a hotel as a housekeeper. The other went to an adult day center and did activities-crafts, music, outings etc! I loved taking them places around town (a favorite activity of ours was to go to Hobby Lobby after returning cans together at the grocery store). They cooked, cleaned (their apt was cleaner than mine.....), did laundry, played sports, took music lessons and just loved their lives!!! They were a joy to be around and I loved going places with them. This was one of the best summers I had! Doesn't really sound like "disabled, violent adults" to me. Duh. This person needs to get a life.
That's all I have to say about that.
I didn't read it because the link was taken down which I want to thank you for Renee.. I don't want to read it because it sounds awful and I am the kind of person that worries and gets anxiety. And this person sounds beyond help and reasoning and any comments I made wouldnt make a difference.
While I find it disturbing that this person feels this way, I get even MORE upset by the comments made on "regular" media sites. The responses to Timothy Shriver's Washington Post column on Spread The Word To End The Word Day upset me more than the ramblings of this psycho. Because you'd think the people who read The Washington Post, NY Times, ABC News, Salon, Business Week, etc. would be your everyday people. And these comments (and earlier ones on the subject of Tropic Thunder or The President's Special Olympics comment) are made by people who are most likely your neighbors, acquaintences and the general public. If so much of the public has these feelings, then we, as parents of kids with disabilities and people with disabilities themselves, have SO MUCH work to do. It can get depressing.
You need to email me the link......
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