Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Sibling... Love?

Summer is starting out with a bang here... full of bickering!
"He touched me!"

"She took my toy!"

"He changed the channel!"

"She sat on my head!" (Seriously?!)

SO last week we implemented a new rule and today I had the joy painstaking job of enforcing it for the first time.

The crime: Bickering over a toy which resulted in someone's foot on someone else's back.

The punishment: They had to hug. For five minutes.



They weren't smiling by the time it was over. Any guesses on how long it will be before they have to do it again?

39 comments :

Patty Ann said...

brilliant!

Anonymous said...

V-e-e-e-e-r-r-r-y Interesting! I'll check back with you in a week or two and see how this is working for you...I can hear it now "She's squeezing me too tight!" "I can't breathe!" LOL...Good Luck my dear!

Love,
The Grandma

Anonymous said...

Ha-ha-ha-ha, how cool! Let us know how it works!

Lea White
http://whitesinnz.blogspot.com

Lisa & Gerald said...

That's a great Idea...

Jess said...

That is a good one. I have also heard that sitting on the couch and holding hands is another one to try.

Denise said...

I am soooo stealing that idea!!!

Jen said...

My mom used to make me and my sister kiss!

Lyndi said...

Lol, as much as I love the creativeness of this, I agree with your mom. I see bickering over the punishment in the very near future! But, I hope it works for you!!

(sorry i forgot to remind you about chat last night, I will do better in the future, you WERE missed!)

♥Lisa♥ @ FinalScore:Boys3Girls2 said...

oh, im going to have to remember that!!
you sure you weren't at my house watching my kids??

Shari said...

Ha! Roy told me to do this and I said no! He just reminded me of this when I read him your post! I will have to try this! I will let you know if it works!

Shannon said...

gotta love summer vacation right?
hang in there!

Leah said...

Angela isn't off school until the 11th!! Anyway, when my boys were kids I enacted "The Taddler Rule". I didn't want to hear about ANYTHING unless the person was bleeding or unconcious. (or, in the case of a house full of boys, doubled over and unable to talk due to a well-aimed throw or something similar!) The Taddler Rule was that the taddler got into the same trouble as the taddlee. So, they REALLY had to think if they wanted to tell me what happened. If it was something serious they knew they wouldn't get into any trouble, but if it was something silly like, "He's bugging me!" they knew they were going to get into trouble right along with the bugger. LOL This worked GREAT, and totally ended the tattling in our house! Funny, if they knew I wasn't going to do anything about it, they were able to solve their little disputes by themselves!

Lily said...

That's great! My brother-in-law made his sons hold hand and sing the "I Love You" song from Barney!

Leslie said...

LMAO love it!

Jen T. said...

LOL at Leah's comment...we have the no bleeding, fire, or unconscious rule. Other than those three, I don't wanna know about it!

Renee, I've done the "sit-on-the-front-porch-and-hold-hands" thing a few times. That way I don't have to hear them or see the eyes roll!

ABandCsMom said...

Ohhh, very good idea!

When I was little I always told my parents I thought a good punishment for my 2 older brothers (not me though, I was an angel)would be to make them use the walk behind/push mower on our yard, which was HUGE...and not let them use the riding tractor. HaHa! It never ever took place. I thought it was a great idea!

BoufMom9 said...

PERFECT punishment!
I actually make my teenagers go in "time-out" and they are so embarassed that i make them do it that it works.
My feeling is, if it works, do it!
Good job mama!

Lynn said...

I could share this passage every day and it would always give the same comfort. It's such an amazing passage of Scripture! Praying!
Job 19:25-27 For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth: And though after my skin worms destroy this body, yet in my flesh shall I see God: Whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not another; though my reins be consumed within me.
Prayer BearsMy email address

ParkerMama said...

LOL! Oh, you are good. Really good!

harlow727 said...

Ooo, I'll have to try that....daughter is 8 and sons are 5 and 3.....wonder how well this will work....thanks for the idea!

Rocksee said...

That's a good one!

narretto said...

Are you sure that you are not at my house....I think I am going to try it on vacation...starting in a couple of hours...they will be bickiering in the car in no time,lol

Milk Mama said...

That's the best punishment ever, Renee! :D lol :D

stephanie said...

I would try the hugging method but I'm afraid my kids would hug like two boa constrictors.Oh, the joys of summer vacation.

Nicki McFadden said...

Oh there is NO WAY my boys would do that!

Anonymous said...

I like that.. think I may try it.. I have a 16 year old and a almost 6year old at home still lets see how this works. My dad bought my sister and I blow up green boxing things (they went gloves) when we would fight they were only used once or twice if i remember correctly.. we were 4 years apart.. dont' really think it was the best thing to do but it worked..lol I like your solution better...
Carol in Missouri

Courtney said...

Love it! I am going to share this with all the moms I know!!

amanda said...

love it. a lot.

Courtney said...

My Mom used to do similar things to us! And one time, my brother and I were fighting sooo much, that she put us both out in the yard and said okay, go ahead just beat the tar out of each other and the one left standing will be grounded the rest of the summer, and she locked us out in the front yard...we thought she was CRAZY, and neither one of us wanted to be grounded to we ended up playing tick tack toe with yard mulch/bark, for hours until she called us in for lunch, oh and then one time we were bickering, and saying all the bad things about each other, and she would make us say something nice about each other for every time we said something negative about the other, and if we couldn't say something seriously nice, then we had to go to our room for an hour...we quickly stopped saying negative things about each other because two hours in our rooms were enough! She was and still is a very creative woman! God love her! Best of luck to you!

Courtney said...

OH and I remember something my grand mother would do...If we were staying with her(and us cousins were always at her house in the summer-our ages now just to show how close we were are as follows: 28,27,25,23,21, and 21.Anyway she would make us recite the books of the bible or a bible verse before we were allowed to tattle. It was soooo annoying to the point, we just wouldn't even tattle! As soon as we were like, I am going to tell Grandma, someone would remind us, that she is going to make you say all those names, or sit and read the daily devotional with her and we would just be like, UGH nevermind!!!
ps: I totally know all the books of the bible and have since I was like 8...I obviously was a tattletale!

JennyH said...

I love it. Also liked reading others. I have done the hugging after they fight, but not for 5 minutes! That is a long time. I'm sure somehow my kids would hug a little TOO tight and end up killing each other after 5 mins.

I bet there will be lots of hugging in your house!

jessica @ raising joey said...

awesome punishment!

Brandy said...

Might just have to try this one. A friend of mine had to sit and hold hands with her brother going up lol. I was an only child.

lesliemarie said...

When my dad was little his mom made him and his sister sit on a stump IN THE FRONT YARD and hug each other for an hour because they were fist fighting. They never did it again, and my dad still tells that story. ;)

Christina said...

LOL..I love your mom's response! I already told you this probably won't work for my kids but I hope it works for yours. And I wanted to let you know I came to your blog! :P

mom2natnkatncj said...

Okay, so I borrowed this. It came into play last night. I have a picture to share ;). The girls are not thrilled about the new rule. Oh and Joe and I were arguing a bit about something yesterday and Natalie goes I know you two can hug for ten minutes, hahahahaha. Yeah, problem is we can resolve our disagreements without hitting each other or calling each other names.

Courtney Pack said...

Funny...we are having that problem at our house too! It's been made worse by the cabin fever that ensues after too many days of rain! I think I will implement the "Hugging technique"! See you Sunday- Mary Grace is excited to see Kennedy! She had so much fun with her at the party. I tried to get some good pictures of Kennedy, but it was hard to get her to stay still- she's a blur in most of them!

Dawn said...

very close to two of my favorite classroom consequences...First- holding hands...if they want to touch one another they can hold hands...I always give a warning, rarely do I get to see them hold hands because the warning is usually followed by the rapid separation of children. Second-staring at one another through the window of the classroom door...I hate when one of my students says "so and so is looking at me or making a face at me"...so the warning they receive is...the next time I hear that complaint you can both look at one another face to face through the window... I usually see this once a year...after it has been demonstrated once it is never repeated...
My mother used the hugging consequence with my brother and me, as well as face-to-face torture without the benefit of glass. We also learned quickly.

amy flege said...

omg. my mom use to make my sister and i hold hand after we got in a fight. i hated every minute of it. haha