Monday, January 23, 2012

Blogging...

I have been thinking a lot today about this blog. I feel like it's being neglected. I went all last year and didn't miss ANY days blogging until November when we went on vacation... after that I kind of gave up. And now I feel like I have nothing to say. Of course that never lasts long. ;o)

I have thought about closing up shop, calling it a day, and sticking to Facebook (and my new found love of Pinterest! haha). I'm just worn out. I'm tired of having to think before EVERY post, "Who's going to judge me for what I'm about to say?" or "Who's going to pick apart this cute video of my son and find something to insult my 4 year old over?" or "Who's going to freak out that I don't post enough about the older two, and instead of realizing I'm respecting their privacy, they'll accuse me of not loving them enough, and even when I DO post about them, their posts are pretty much ignored which makes them sad, so why bother?" or "No matter what I post or what I do, even though some of you know my heart, people who I thought were friends are out there spreading horrible things about me."

I read somewhere that what other people say about you is none of your business. And I like that saying, in theory. But it's really hard when I get comments on my blog picking apart my innocent children or people questioning my motives behind what I do, or heaven forbid I post more about one child than the other... and really, when you insult my children, it IS my business.

I am also fully aware that all of this... crap... comes along with blogging. Eventually, no matter who you are, someone is going to come along who does not like how you parent, how you talk, how you write, how you think, what you post... whatever. I closed down anonymous comments a few months ago, and that's helped a lot because no one seems to have the guts to leave their name to back up a nasty comment, but then in passing, I find that someone who I thought was a friend was really trashing me... and has been for years. And I'm sure there are more.

There are a few purposes to my blog...
1. To keep my family and friends who we don't talk to every day updated on our lives and our children's lives.
2. To bring awareness to Down syndrome and childhood cancer and International Adoption... it may not be all positive information, but it's real and true; and no I don't know everything, but I know if I post a question, someone out there will have the answers. It's been so wonderful being part of this Down syndrome community... one where I've received support and prayers and ideas and love over the years... and hopefully I've returned that to others.
3. To keep my husband up to date and informed when he's deployed... and we're heading there again soon.
4. It's a place for me to vent... like I am doing tonight. It's a place for me to rant about news articles or whatever I feel like talking about at the time... And I thank those of you who have indulged my soapbox for so long. :o)
(And that list was really more for me as a reminder than for all of you..) ;o)

But now... I'm not sure what to do. I've thought about turning off ALL comments (but that doesn't really stop people from talking behind my back, does it?). I've thought about going private, which seems to be the most logical thing to do, but every time I get an email from a mother who found my blog because their baby just was diagnosed with Down syndrome or Leukemia or AOI or CIPA and wants to talk about their experiences or has questions about our experiences, I think that going private is not the right thing to do. If I can help other parents on this journey we are on, then that's amazing. That's what I want to do. SO many parents helped me when Kennedy was born... and I want to pay that forward forever.

I don't really know what the point of this post is... except that I'm worn out. And I'm sad. And yes, I'm having a little bit of a pity party stemming from the hurt caused by this "friend". But I'll get over it, I promise. And it's going to be a really long week for all of us. Anyway, those are my thoughts for tonight... take them for what you will... because they're probably not worth much ;). And if something in this post offends you, which I'm sure it will to someone out there, let me apologize right now for being me. Because apparently to you, that's never good enough.

Nuff said, pity party over. Back to life.

65 comments :

Jen T. said...

Perhaps you could just stick to one-sided texting?

Tam said...

I love all your blogs and read them pretty religiously, share some with Bill because they make him smile too and you are a wonderful writer and who wouldn't smile at your kids faces and some of the things they come up with? If I don't see one for a while, I go looking if I missed one, I guess you could say the Bellomy's are Special K blog addicts! lol
All I can say to all this Renee, let it roll off you, you don't blog to please the nit picker or the fake friend, or to please everyone. You blog like you said, to share with your true friends, family and to help others and I believe those people outweigh those few cowards that have to trash you and your little ones in hiding. Also I do understand it is tough reading things said about your children but just think, how low does a person have to be, to pick apart a child and how does their life has to be? Pretty sad. Happiness doesn't stem from such ugliness, and trashing a child, any child, is pretty ugly.

Karrie said...

I am so sorry that "a friend" has criticized you and how you are raising your beautiful kiddos. I can relate, though, as I lost my best friend of 12 years because she was "uncomfortable" that I have a daughter with Ds.

Please don't shut down your blog!!!! I am still new to this whole Ds thing and I have learned a ton from reading your blog! I know that it is easier said than done....but disregard these persons comments......you are an awesome mom and I admire your strength you have had through all the ups and downs you have been through.

Lea White said...

Please don't stop! I enjoy reading your blog posts! Understand why you feel the way you do, but I really hope you'll continue!!!

Tam said...

You could probably say us Bellomy's are addicted to the Special K's blog and if I don't see one for a while I go looking if I missed one. You brighten our days with some and educate us with others.

Here is all I have to say, let the things said roll of your back. Like you said, you post for your true friends and family, for those who need help and share experiences with. You don't post for the nit pickers that are so spineless they have to hide their identity. I bet all the good you do, all the people you help, make smile and those who appreciate you and your family outweigh those black souls by a great number.

I know it is hard to let it roll off you when people pick your child apart because the Momma bear comes out with a growl, but think of this, how ugly does a person have to be to bash a child? How miserable and how does their life have to be? Happiness doesn't stem from ugliness and those people sure are ugly inside.

Laurie said...

I guess what I would say is that person was never and isn't really a friend. Such a shame that so many people these days find some sort of thrill in stirring up drama or picking apart others lives...instead of focusing on what's important in their own lives. Hugs to you! I am so glad you blog, I love reading all your updates good and bad! We've never met IRL, but I know your Kennedy and my Jocelyn would get along famously! <3 Someday maybe..... Prayers to you as you consider what you want to do...I for one hope you keep posting!

Saving Money, Freebies and More... said...

Renee,
I was always told by mom that when people spread hate and lies its the ugliest form of jealousy. I find it shameful that people would accuse you of loving one child more than another, or that they would bad mouth you or your beautiful children at all. You are one of the kindest, most loving, accepting, helpful, positive, etc etc etc woman I know. When Briana was going thru that time where leukemia could have been a real possibility I was terrified. Talking to you not only taught me a lot, but calmed my fears and brought some comfort and peace that I had not had those few weeks of every other day blood draws. I can't imagine how anyone could ever question your love of your children. You give so much and your posts are always so informative, fun, and I love reading them.

Please don't let the few jealous bad apples spoil it for the rest of us. If you need to take time away from the blog than please take time away. But dont just stop all together. I love reading the funny quotes from Kameron, or Kellsey and her achievements, Kennedy and her silliness, as well as your older two children. Don't worry what others think! Even though we have never met IRL I feel like I have known you forever and I cherish your support and friendship!

Renia Flaishans said...

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this Renee. I love reading your blog and would be very sad if you stopped blogging or went private and I am sure a lot of others ferl the same way. Dont let a few bad people ruin it for many others.

Renia (Michigan)

Elizabeth said...

I've been reading your blog for probably 6 months, but haven't posted before now... I guess you could call me a lurker, LOL. I just want to say that I would miss you if you stopped blogging. I, too, have been through an event in life where I learned that someone I considered a close friend was viciously talking crap behind my back, and it sucks. I'm sorry you are going through a hard time right now. All I can say is that you are better off in the long run, and there are oodles of people who care more for you than that person ever did. I appreciate your honesty, love hearing about your kids, and admire the sacrifices you make for your family. I'm a single gal for now, but I hope someday to have a loving family just like yours. Hopefully I haven't freaked you out, LOL, I guess I just want to say that I hope you keep blogging, and ignore the haters. :-)

Jenn said...

I'm sorry people can be stupid...

Runningmama said...

Keep on blogging, I know when Emily was first born your blog was such an encouragement to me and then again when she was also diagnosed with leukemia. I feel the same way sometimes about blogging, but then I also feel like it's one of the ways God can use me and I have often heard that the safest place to be is in the center of God's will, so that being said, keep doing what you do so well. I love your blog and will tell you those who don't are just a small minority. Don't let an angry few spoil what you have to offer everyone else. I hope this encourages you!

Just Me said...

My blog doesn't have the readership that yours does. (In fact thanks to blogger being mean it seems that I have no readers but that's b/c they can't comment. grr).

But a few years ago someone attacked me and I felt like I was sharing my life and yet if there wasn't drama nobody read it, and it didn't feel worth it if I was just going to be hurt and ignored if I happened to not have anything bad happening. Right then, when I was within days of giving it up, I found out that when I needed friends it became a lot easier to ignore the drama seekers and mean people, because at that time it was the best way to share with people who got it since I don't find many of those in my teeny town. I also found out who my real friends in the computer were and I am now better able to ignore the person who posts on my blog only because she wants attention for her own issues, or the random person who always picks the wrong day to be mean, and to remember that the people who get what I am saying, who remember litle details when I need that, and who make an effort (right down to someone who takes time almost daily to give me a Bible verse and thoughts), those are why it's there. Otherwise I'd just go private, give nobody the code and happily type away.

Don't know my point, but I think there is one if you can find it. Sorry, it's been a horrible day.

Kate said...

<3 you, Renee. I'm sorry you've been wounded. It's hard enough when it's strangers insulting you and your kids... it's 100 times worse when it's a person you thought of as a friend.

It's your blog. Do what you want. Your true friends will support you all the way. :)

mom2natnkatncj said...

Awww don't close up shop. I know how you feel though sometimes it's just a drain. But it's so great to be helping people too. This might not help your issue of being drained, but what if you made this into a family blog and made it private, but then continued to have another blog that talked about the medical stuff and other things you have learned over the years? Then you can keep family and friends and the people who truly care about you and your family up to date on the kid stuff, but you can still help and advocate for people going through Down Syndrome, Cancer, adoption, CIPA, and all other things without having to put your kids out there so much. Just a thought and well me being selfish because yours is the one blog I read on a daily basis. And sure I can get up to date on your FB. There might be a little regret if you shut this down though. I know for my family blog I have been having a lot of fun going back to 4 years ago to see where my kids have come from and where they are headed. And to see how I've developed as a parent even.

Suzetta said...

:( Sorry. A friend of a friend led me to your blog a few years ago. I have loved reading it. Everything. It's hard being an Army wife. I can't even imagine your life with Special Needs kids on top of it. I admire you for sharing so much with us, your readers. I hope you don't give this person power over you and your life. They don't deserve it. Good luck with your decision! You'll never please "everyone" you only need to worry about pleasing yourself. :) Thanks for reading my rant!

Wendy said...

I think the point of this post is because you are free to do it and it makes you feel at least a little better so jump up on that box when you are good and ready and stay for as long as you want!!
We all need to vent from time to time and true friends and/or genuine, caring, good people listen whether they agree or not and do not trash others! PERIOD!
These genuine people may even offer their opinion, talk about things openly etc.... But these geniune people are okay that there are diferences among us nor do that judge or trash..... just agree to disagree!

I understand the frustration and hurt but I hope you don't close your blog because some poeople can't get over themselves!

I would bet that those spreading ugliness are jealous and obviously have no other means of making themselves feel better. Maybe those individuals should take a long look within themselves ask forgiveness, pray a lot and stay away from blogs if they haven't anything good or nice to say!

The Stairs Family said...

Seriously, mean people suck!! Why do they even take the time to read your blog if they don't like you?? Ugh...very frustrating. I'm sorry that someone(s) Would purposely say hurtful things about your sweet kids...that's just low. I'm hoping you dot have to resort to shutting the blog down- I'd miss your soapbox rants :) and of course, the Pics and stories of the kids :)

Nancy said...

I, for one, would be really bummed if you "closed". I found you because of the common thread of Ds. I don't get to read your blog daily, however when I have a question/concern I'm happy to know you're there with a "been there" or "done that" or guidance of where an answer can be searched for. As far as a "friend" trashing you, remember Jesus and the disciples denying Him. Not quite the same but you get the idea. Personally, I'd say that you are doing something fun, right and exciting for someone to be jealous from. As long as your family continues to grow and prosper; who cares about the comments. They are of those who really need to get a life of their own instead of living the one they are trying to live through yours. And oh by the way, while they are dreaming of walking in your shoes and you do something different from how they would have done it; remember it doesn't make it a wrong way, but YOUR way and I, for one am a fan! Keep the blog going! You have more fans than you realize and I would say more fans than big mouth trashers!

Marlo said...

I hardly comment because I do all my blog reading on my phone but I will say that not only am I a huge fan of your blog but it has also taught me some important lessons. I used to worry about the chances of having a child with down syndrome as I get older. I used to panic and consider the idea of not having kids would be better than having a "different" son or daughter. But your blog, through the power of Kennedy and Kellsey, has taught me that I shouldn't fear a difference but welcome it instead. Please don't close down your blog. You are really making a difference no matter how small it may be.

ginnydeegan said...

I'm sorry you're going thru such a rough time. I'm a military wife and know how stressful pre-deployment is. Anything adding stress on top of it is overwhelming. Your "friend" certainly wasn't a very good one to be talking behind your back like that. So sorry she's hurt your feelings.

I hope you decide to keep blogging. Okay, I admit..it's for purely selfish reasons! lol Although I don't comment often, I've been reading for years. I'd miss reading about your kids. Thank you for the priviledge of watching them grow up! :-)

sam said...

This is my first time commenting but I have followed your family since Kennedy's carepage years ago. I LOVE your family and enjoy reading the blog everyday. Your family is an inspiration to me and I admire you and Frank for adopting a child when you already have four children of your own. I would love to have four or five children of my own someday. Please keep blogging for those of us who LOVE you and your family!!

Sam

helmer said...

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Its not right for people to judge others when the truth is nobody knows what they would do until they are in the exact same circumstance. I don't have children but have learned so much from reading your blog. I really want to adopt one day (after graduate school) and your experiences through all of the health stuff and still managing to find what appears to be happiness much of the time is inspiring.

Jaimie said...

I'm sorry that blogging has been less than fun lately :( I really enjoy your Posts and hope you continue writing!

BridgetPirie said...

Renee, I am just so sorry to hear that people have been so stupid and horrible. I love reading your blog. I can't imagine how anyone could pick apart anything you say. I just reckon that you are one of the coolest mothers around. What is wrong with some people? Anyway, you must do what you feel is best and I will understand either way. But I just wanted you to know that I think ALL of your kids are great, and their parents.
Take care,
Bridget

Lynn said...

Well you definitely know how to get people to leave comments! ;o)
You've got to do what you think is best, Renee. You could start a blog about Downs, one you don't have to update every day but one that can easily be found and can still help people. You have to do what's best for you and your family first, though!
Praying right now!
Isaiah 26:3-4 Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. Trust ye in the LORD for ever: for in the LORD JEHOVAH is everlasting strength.
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impatient patient said...

renee,

in all honesty, reading your blog is very often the highlight of my day. i could say a lot more on this topic, but i won't. sometimes, brevity is most powerful.

i would be so sad if you privatized your blog or stopped blogging all together. selfishness aside, i vote for you doing what is best for you and your family. please know there are those of us out there who read, love, and don't judge you...and there are people who will continue to pretend to love you but really judge you even if they have nothing to read! you can't please anyone but yourself.

wishing you (& your very special ks!) a warmer, brighter, & lighter tomorrow,
morgan-amanda

Lisa said...

Jealous!!! I say they are jealous!!!! I love your blog, and hearing about your family....all of it. They must be jealous that you are an amazing mom/person and have a wonderful husband and 5 fabulous kids!!!! We love you guys!!!!

Holly Aytes said...

I too hope you won't close up shop but realize you have to do what is best for you and your family. It is really sad when "friends" treat you like that...it has happened to me before though not due to blogging. If you do decide to close shop I am happy to know that I can still keep up with you through facebook. And I still haven't ruled out a possible match up of Keeghan and Madison if that works for your family :) LOL You know I don't blog about Taylor as much as the other 2 b/c of the privacy thing either.

Kathy said...

Renee, daily blogging is not necessary, it DOES get difficult. Don't hold yourself to such a high standard, it's not a contest. That said, your blogs are really helpful. I'm not THAT far behind you in the DS world, PJ being 4, but I have learned TONS from your blog and love reading it. Love your honesty, and love the truth, even when it's not the most comfortable. For those who are hurtful and judgmental in their comments to you, I am ready to put money on the fact that they DON'T open up their whole life and share everything in a blog to help others, as you DO. And if they did, they would be criticized for things that they do, or don't do.
Nobody is perfect, and people are ugly to others. So, girl, stiff upper lip, and please keep sharing.

Jacki said...

Girlfriend, PLEASE!

This blog is YOU....it's not about anyone else, and you are free to post your feelings.

Remember that OUR JESUS was also criticized, and talked about... backstabbed and scorned, yet he had nothing but love and the best intentions for all of us.
Kinda like you :)

Hang in there and please don't change the things you do, or how you do them. It is who you are, and why we all love you so much!

The best advice I was ever given (and I'm passing it on to you)...
When life gets you down, go to you Bible and flip through the Old Testament...MANY, MANY times you will read the passage "And It Came To Pass"....You will NEVER read that "It Came To STAY" !!!!

Love you soooooooo much!
Praying for Frank, your family, and YOU through these times!

Shannon said...

I enjoy your blog tremendously and think you are a wonderful wife and an amazing mother! I would surely miss your blog, but I understand you have to do what's best for you and your family.

.emma.stormy. said...

I REALLY hope you will not stop blogging! I go to your blog every morning and I look so forward to reading everything you write...whether it is a medical thing on one of the kids, a funny thing, a sad thing, a vent, an awareness issue or whatever. I'm VERY open when I do blog and I often get a lot of criticism from people....so I know how it hurts. Because of issues with Meag I have also found out that several people I thought were 'friends' weren't and have been saying awful things...it hurts. You are a wonderful woman, wife, mom, friend, Christian...you inspire me so much. I hope you stay just like you are, blogging just like you do. Love you!

Vivielle said...

Don't think I've ever commented before, but wanted to say that I love reading about your family, and if you ever stop blogging or go private, know that there will be people who will miss you. Your blog certainly has brought awareness about Down Syndrome etc.

Designs by DD said...

I'm so sorry that there are people in the world that think it is their business to judge others when they have not walked in their shoes.

I'm not sure when or how I found your blog but I started following it. Then I followed through your adoption of sweet Kellsey. I read with interest your dealings with the schools when I was studying to become a special ed teacher. I check in everyday just to enjoy watching your precious children grow up.

Please don't disapper, I'm on facebook but we have been without internet for 6 months at home and I can't get facebook at work. I'd like to continue keeping up with your family. I've been praying for Frank and the upcoming deployment, praying for your mom and you and the kids. I know you miss having her close and especially having that in person support when you are "single-parenting" while Frank is deployed.

{{{Hugs}}} from San Antonio

m&msmommy said...

It would be very unfortunate for you to "close up shop" after being an inspiration to so many familes and people in general, but of course you must do whats best for your family. We are Facebook friends, but I like reading your blog, keeping up to date with your family, and seeing your super adorable pictures that are more in depth on your blog. It stinks that people can be so hateful, especially when they are your "friend". I'm sorry you are going through a tough time right now, but I pray that before you call it quits, you think about how much good you've brought to the blogging community! :)

babyofsix said...

I haven't read the other comments, so I apologize if I'm repeating what others have said. Your blog is an AMAZING resource for many things. Aside from the things you listed that you'd like the blog to bring awareness to, your blog is a resource for life... life as a family, life as a military family (at times), life in general.

That being said, I'm SO sorry that you've had "friends" (or "a friend") cause you to feel this way. People have opinions and, anonymous or not, opinions are often easier stated in writing than face to face. It's a little cowardly, but it is what it is.

I think if you REALLY look at the comments that come in, you'd find more positive, uplifting comments than negative ones. Why is it so much easier to focus on the negatives in life? I think you've helped way more people than you may have offended.

Regardless, you do what you feel is best for you and your family. I'll figure out a way to stay in touch. :)

Natalie

Heather said...

I'm sorry a friend has broken your trust. I know you don't KNOW me, but I absolutely love reading about your kiddos. I've been reading for something like 3 years now, before you got Kellsey, and I'd hate to lose you. Your babies' smiles brighten my days and the older kids (wow, I just realized that I'm counting Kenn with the 'older kids' now!) are so entertaining.

With that said, I think you are a fabulous mother and cannot begin to dream how anyone could criticize how you parent. I don't know ANYONE who has dealt with the issues you have - Down, leukemia, AOI, CIPA, adoption, attachment issues, deployment....and you do it with such class! You advocate for your girls with disabilities like a true mama bear, as you should! No one should fault you.

It has been my experience that women, in general, are mean and nasty with each other, especially when it comes to criticizing how we parent. I have no idea why that is. It would seem that we would want to celebrate each other as we raise our children instead of criticizing! Grr. It's frustrating, I know.

Please consider staying around. You're an inspiration and we love you! Besides, I'd miss those five smiling, goofy faces. :)

Janet said...

I am so incredibly sorry that people have been using your comments section to promote their own useless agenda. The things that you stated people have accused you of is ridiculous. I adore your blog. I feel as though I have learned a bit about life from each of your children. You don't know this, but keeping up with Kellsey's updates may have been what kept me from drowning when I was having some very unexpected struggles after adopting Aziza. Reading about Kennedy keeps me optimistic for Aziza's future. Hearing about the antics of your adorable Keeghan makes me smile regularly and reminisce about when my Samantha was younger. Watching Kameron grown up and be so thrilled with life makes me joyful. And of course, your beautiful Kassidy. How she reminds me of my eldest. I love to catch glipses of her growing up, but also see reminders that she is still so wonderfully young. Your family is beautiful and I am someone who has visited your blog every day for the past 18 months. I do not comment much, but maybe I should do that more. Thank you for blogging. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. Anybody sitting in judgement obviously is dealing (inappropriately) with their own insecurities in their faith, their parenting and their place in this world. Keep on blogging my friend, my day would not be the same without!

Janet
http://mylittlewarriorprincess.blogspot.com/

bakersdozen said...

I generally enjoy reading your blog even though I don't agree with everything you do and say-that's fine. I'm sure you wouldn't agree with my whole life either! I try to stick to the, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!" (Unless you're asked, then be honest).

ourjoyfulljourney said...

I just want to quote one of my all time favorite quotes for you :) "Be who YOU are and Say what you feel...because those who mind DON'T matter and those who matter DON'T mind!" Dr. Seuss

I know it's way easier said than done..believe me I Know! ;) But really, who are we here to please? in the end we want to hear one thing, "well done" coming from the ONE person who matters! If you are making a difference in others lives that find you along the way and you feel like that is reason enough to stay blogging then do so and don't worry about who says what...Some of us out here really do love hearing what you have to say! ;)

Even if you stop blogging, as sad as it is..you will STILL have people talking behind your back, because you guys are Different than the rest of the world, you raise your kids differently, you go to church, you actually have a relationship with God outside of church, you actually LOVE your husband and you love ALL your kids, and you guys Love kids so much you decided to adopt, You have children with special needs.. should i go on?? ;) But all those things that make you guys different is what makes you guys LOVED, loved by your true friends and family and loved by the One who created you that way...

We are supposed to be "in the world but not of it" and that is what you are doing living IN the world but not taking part in all the things OF the world..and really even to some christians out there that makes you crazy and worthy of being picked on..for lack of a better example..look at tim tebow ;) May I encourage you with these words from our Jesus? "If the world hates you,you know that it has hated Me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, because of this the world hates you." John 15:18-19

Praying for you...I hope you stay! But I know you will make the best choice for YOU! :)

S said...

The difference you have made in your readers lives, passing on the knowledge that a disABILITY is the path to discovery, far outweighs the evil.

You are on God's side.

Jo's Corner said...

You is kind, You is smart, You is important!
You Is Loved ~ Jo

Tami said...

Renee - I have been reading your blog for sometime now and I enjoy it so much! I have tried to comment before but could never figure it out. I think you are a great mom and an incredible source of information! I have a little one with Ds and I pray that we never have to deal with leukemia. I love hearing about all of your children but Kellsey is just such an interesting little person. (my favorite picture of her is the ta-da picture in her Cheshire Cat costume) I love to see her smile and I think your family has been such a blessing to her. I would love to adopt from EE but we are over the age limit so we help out other families whenever we can. I am so sorry you have to deal with all the negativity and meanness. You must know that your support far out weighs all of that. Hang in there Renee!

Vonda said...

Some people just need to get a life. They are poor unfortunate souls who have nothing better to do than try to hurt others. I feel sorry for them. In reality they are probably just jealous, jealous that they can't be as good of a mother as you are. Life is too short to behave this way, it makes no sense. If they'd put all that negativity into something worthwhile, the world would be a nicer place. They must have really DEEP issues. So sad.

Amanda said...

Please don't close up shop! I'm sorry that people are being so hateful and rude, I just can't understand why they would want to do that! You're a wonderful mother, writer, and person, and I hope you keep blogging, I love hearing about your family!

Tracy said...

Hang in there! Hope that you are feeling better today. It is sad that people have to tear down others. All of us are in this together. We may not do things the same way but that does not mean anyone is any better than anyone else. You are indeed a very special person, and I personally have enjoyed reading your blog for the last couple of years. Keep doing what you have been doing; you have five amazinging kids to prove you are doing something right! Hugs from Florida.

Jennifer Lane said...

I hate this word and hate to use it but here it goes... People suck sometimes and their main goal in life is to aggrivate other people. I tell our oldest all the time that if someone is talking about her or doing something towards her it's because they have low self-esteem and they want someone else to think they are great so they try to tear you down. Don't let them! I'm friends with you on fb too but I would miss hearing your stories about ALL of the kiddos. You have been a great help to me and I would miss your blog. With that said we love you and will pray for this "friend" and you and your decision.

Michelle Burger said...

I love your blog. Your blog was the very first one I started reading a couple of years ago and it is still the one I click on first to see what is going on in your life and am most excited to read. I love hearing about your kids and you have definitely given me new insight in life with children that have Downs Syndrome and made me more comfortable reaching out to a friend who has a child with Downs. Also through your postings I donated several times to Reece's Rainbow. I don't know what to say about your friend and her comments other than it is too bad she needs to say bad things about you to feel better about herself.

Manuella said...

Just wanted to comment to give you a big virtual hug !!!
Don't ever apologize for being you, that's why we love you !

xx
Manuella

Julie said...

While I confess that this might be my first time commenting here, I would be so sad if you closed down your "shop." People suck and I'm sorry about that. I don't ever read the comments so I don't know what people are saying but I'm sorry they are being so negative.

Adrienne said...

Renee...Sorry you have to deal with this...... I love your blog posts and your beautiful family......
adrienne

Julie G. said...

Please don't stop blogging!! I enjoy reading about your family so much, and you are on my list of blogs I check daily. I have noticed you have not blogged as much lately, and have tried to be patient! ;) I know you have to do what is best for you and your family, but just know there would be some sad people if your blog went away!

Julie G.

McVickety said...

I have never commented before but have been reading your blog quietly after stumbling upon it on a quest to avoid revision (Im a university student) at the beginning of this year. I'm not sure what I'm commenting but I think I just wanted to show my support, and from the view of a non-parent.

I know when I was 11, my school was next door to a special needs school and I would be part of a group of children to visit them on a lunch time to simply share our play time (recess? Im British!). While I was over there I became friends with a younger down syndrome girl, who I would see on every visit and became fast friends with, and from my view wasn't hugely different from any other 7 year old I know and who Kennedy definitely reminds me of! I genuinely enjoy reading your blog, It has not only helped me learn more about down syndrome but I genuinely respect how you have raised all your kids and I hope you know for every nasty comment you get there are probably a lot more people like me out there who quietly enjoy your blog and take advice from your skills, even if I don't yet have kids!

I still can't really see what the point was in this post but I sort of wanted to show my face and say Please don't stop blogging!!

Lisa (DanielsMommy) said...

Don't let the miserable people put a damper on your blogging. There are just closed minded fuddy duddy's out there who try and spoil our fun. Keep posting, keep sharing, keep on raising your kids they way you and Frank see fit. It's no one's business. If they don't like what you write...then let them move along and find someone elses blog to leave comments on. For me, I like a nice hot cup of coffee in the morning and to read and catch up with my Special K friends :)

Anne B. said...

Love your blog Renee! I found you through Kennedy's CarePage and have read since then. And from here I was led to All Are Precious In His Sight...and from there to more and more. My eyes have been opened to the world of international adoption and I have learned so much and felt my heart grow and grow! Don't leave us! We love reading whatever you have to say...and love watching your family grow...and love praying for all of you....praying for you now. Just know that whatever you decide, you are loved by many!! (((HUGS)))!!!!

Notsopc said...

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH... How would your readers go without you and Frank and your kids.. I find alot of info about Downs and I know there are readers, who after you write about something happening with Kelsey, says OMG that is what so and so is going through... Plus you write great blogs.. so hurtful to find a friend isn't what she thought she was but most times things like that go on is because she/he isn't happy with theirselves..Also, sorry you have to go through another deployment.. We are all here for you...Wil be thinking of you and praying for all you need to go through it again..
Nancy

Melissa said...

Lots of other bloggers who have children with DS are talking about going private or closing their blog. Please don't! I do not comment very often but read your blog every time you post,and would miss reading about EACH of the kids. I do enjoy hearing about your daily life with them and what challenges you are dealing with, and do think you are able to help others who are going through this I am a case manager and work with families who have special needs children and have been able to suggest things to them that I have read on your blog, so you ARE making a difference and I would miss that if you go away

Sandi said...

Keep blogging!! I love your posts

Lynn said...

Life can be overwhelming at times, but the victory is ours through Christ! Put your trust in Him! Praying!
1 Corinthians 15:54-57 So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
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Lynsi said...

Don't go! I don't comment often but read everyday, I don't have a child with DS but I do have children and that is enough common ground for me plus I am from CO so I get cool points :)! I am sorry people are jerks, hang in there!

SherryA said...

If it makes you feel better , I do not read everyday so if you didn't post every day, I'd understand. I imagine those who say mean things are either jealous or just one of those people who aren't happy unless they're not happy. You take whatever breaks you need and I think it would be fine for you to take a sabbatical. All good writers must take breaks to recharge their batteries. You are a great writer and a good inspiration to all. While I do not have a child with down syndrome or leukemia, I do have a special needs child (Asperger's) and your positive uplifting spirit is food for my soul. You are loved by many more than you know.

Endeavoring Mama said...

Awe... I think we all have days like these. This is why I left Facebook. I felt like I posted up so much good stuff that was either argued with or ignored... but blogging is beast of it's own. I find it's easier to write in blogs over Facebook. I look forward to your blogs.

kntsmom said...

Please do not let those people intimidate you. I can see by the other comments here, that I am not the only one who loves reading your blog. I like some of the people on here do not comment often, but never miss a day of checking for an update. I love hearing about the Special K's and seeing the great pictures. I hope you do not disappear or go private. I would miss it. Being a military wife, on the Navy side of it though, I also sympathize when you write about Frank's Deployments, as we have endured three of them already and my husband is a reservist. I am going to take the high road here and say thank you so much for your honesty on here it is always nice to have someone who you can relate to because you are so honest and true. Thank you for that.
Kim Fissette

Sara P. said...

Renee, I am so sorry for the negativity in the world out there. I'm a long time reader and rare commenter who is a professional with two grown kids. I've never been touched by deployments, leukemia, down syndrome, international adoption or the many other special issues you write about. But I love reading your writing and from what I can see you and Frank seem to be doing a wonderful job with your family.

Many of the other commenters have told you what your blog has meant to their lives, but I thought you'd be interested in knowing how it could make a difference to someone whose life is very different from yours. I'm an empty nester now, and when I'm not working my day job, I'm fulfilling a long time dream of writing a fiction book for teens. One of my characters has down syndrome; the "more alike than different" theme that permeates so much of the writing on your blog (and of course, your wonderfully inspiring Special Ks) has resonated with me, and it's a message I hope to convey is some of my own writing.

Kim said...

How could somebody have said anything negative about that precious video of that gorgeous boy of yours? For one negative person you have I'm sure 20 positive readers Renee. I have been reading your blog for a few years and even though I don't know your family personally I feel like I do. I would be sad if you closed your blog because I look forward to reading about your beautiful children and I think you and Frank are wonderful parents to all of them! Hold your head up high and know those who comments like that just need a life and have nothing better to do.
Kim in VA