Friday, August 31, 2012

Perspective

So I dropped the kids off at school today and drove to Target to get some shopping done. I had my list all written out - two birthday presents for the party Kameron is going to tonight, toilet bowl cleaner, peanut butter and wrapping paper for the aforementioned presents. I know, short, strange list. I shop in stages.

I was in the store for literally 15 seconds when a voice boomed over the loudspeaker: "Attention Target guests, would the owner of a black Dodge Grand Caravan please report to guest services."

Crap! That's me. Crap. Someone just hit my van in the parking lot. Crap! I hope they have good insurance and if that's the case, I hope they totaled it so I can just get a new car and not deal with the repairs. (Hey just being honest!)

So I get to the front and see Mr. Customer Service Guy standing there waiting for me with a look on his face that tells me that surely something awful has happened. Crap!! "What happened to my van?" I asked.

"Do you drive a black Dodge Grand Caravan?" He replied.

"Yep. That's me. Did someone hit it?"

"We're going to have to talk about this outside. "

CRAP!!! This is not good!! Just then another lady runs up with a full cart and a toddler in the front, frantic, and says, "It's me! That's my car! What happened to my baby?!"

Huh?! Mr. Customer Service Guy and I both stared at her and then at each other. He asked her, "Do YOU drive a black Dodge Grand Caravan and did you leave a baby in the back?"

Ohhhhh. That is most definitely NOT my van! He proceeded to tell her that the fire department was there and she needed to follow him. I followed too, because, well, I'm a little nosy and I just had a mini heart attack thinking someone just totaled my van and I wanted to make sure it was ok.

It was. Thankfully, so was her newborn baby.

I don't understand what made her decide to bring her toddler into the store and not her newborn. I don't understand what was so important that she needed inside of Target... Her cart was FULL and even though it was 9am, it was warm out already. I don't understand why the police officer let her drive away with her children, but she did. Just two moms in two black Dodge Grand Caravans. As we drove up to a red light we made eye contact. She looked... Terrified. I imagine I would too. I realized that I don't know her. She made a very bad choice this morning but I don't know her or her story. I said a little prayer for her and her children and gave her a little smile before I drove away, knowing it might be the only one she sees today. 

And I'm glad my van is not totaled. ;)

15 comments :

The Blitz said...

WOW! That is such an important story on perspective! I can't believe they let her drive away with both kids though! I once saw two kids in a parked car, alone, also at Target, police were called and they took her away, sans kids.
Wow!

Cindy said...

Oh my word!!! What are parents thinking when they make a choice to leave a baby in the car?!? And she brought in her toddler?? Stunning.

Sewconsult said...

When my girls were little, I was complaining to hubby that I was exhausted from running errands, which included taking the girls out and putting them back in carseats with each stop. He asked why I didn't leave them in there. I just stared at him in disbelief. "You just don't do that!" That's why he never took them on his errands! Glad the woman didn't get arrested. We all have days that don't go the 'right' way and having a newborn and a toddler was probably an overwhelming day for her to begin with.
Beckie

Monicas Mom Musings said...

Let us hope that the reason the cops let her leave with those kids is because after questioning her she had a very plausible story. I can't imagine what other than lack of sleep. On auto pilot she only took the toddler out and forgot about the baby maybe? And only when there was the announcement about the caravan did she "wake up" so to speak and realize that she didn't have the baby. Glad it wasn't you though ;).

The McCammons said...

I am so glad that you aren't judging her, because like you said we all don't know her story or what really happened. I can say, that I myself, have almost been in this situation. I am too ashamed to post exactly what happened, but I can tell you, it can and it's scary. I do not know how she went about it that long without realizing, but still, its scary. Maybe, like someone else said, the police officer understood and gave her a real warning. I do know that around CO Springs the police are very active with children so I hope it was a great reason. Hugs and so glad your van isn't totaled, but sorry it's not too. (I would totally wish for the totaled to get a new car :)

SherryA said...

Here they would have called cps and likely taken both kids and put her in jail. But I suppose there are some situations that we don't hear about when they wouldn't.

Anne B. said...

I also just stopped and said a prayer for this woman. We don't know her situation but God does, and I pray that he would give her wisdom, guidance, comfort, and whatever else he knows she needs. You are awesome, Renee, for giving her a smile. It could just possibly change her life today!!! (((HUGS)))!!!

Becca said...

Wow! And good for you for keeping it all in perspective. I'm not sure I would have had that moment of clarity. Bet she doesn't do that again! Glad the baby's okay, glad your van's okay, too! :-)

Notsopc said...

I'm just confused to some of these comments saying oh we don't know her reasons.. She left her baby in a van and went shopping.. I repeat She left her baby in a van and went shopping..We had a woman who left her son in a van and went to work,, The boy died.. I don't think she should have gone to jail but what happens the next time she leaves her baby in the van and goes shopping.. Maybe the baby will die.. no excuse.. none.. babies die left in a van.. It's still summer.. Okay that's my take on this..

Mama2Kayden said...

I understand everyone's focus that she left the baby in a warm van during the Summertime, but as far as I'm concerned, you should NEVER leave a child ( or pet for that matter) alone in a vehicle!!! Winter, spring , summer, or fall all wrong ! Thankful the baby is ok and also that no one abducted it. I'm shocked the mom was allowed to just drive off. Hopefully she won't ever do that again, but sadly she probably will since she had no consequences for her actions. Sorry you were scared Renee thinking something happened to your van! That would have freaked me out, too!! I will join you in praying for this woman.

Michelle said...

I'm on the she left her baby in the van. I realize if it's not the norm and they are quiet they are easy to forget but she had to get her toddler out of the car so she had to of seen the baby. Yep I'm judging. I don't care. She left a baby in the car alone and it was hot.

Julie said...

Ladies, I think we obviously know she shouldn't have made that choice. You have no way of knowing if she will do it again. Maybe the fright she received today will keep her from making that decision in the future. Maybe she has post partum depression and was overwhelmed. We will never know. Yes, tragically children have died from this. However, maybe it would be great if we would have a little grace and compassion and pray for her and her children instead of judging her. Renee was exactly right in choosing not to judge.

Vonda said...

Okay when I first started reading this I was FUMING....then I calmed down, and asked myself "if I had a toddler, was stressed to the hilt, and my sleeping newborn was in the back, asleep, safe, and I only had to run in to get ONE THING, I may have done the same thing...probably NOT, but maybe", but then I read she had a full cart, which had to take awhile, so now I'm FUMING again. lol

Kristin said...

Holy crap!

Lynn said...

Thankful that the baby's okay! Hope that she got the scare of her life and that she won't ever, ever do that again!
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