Tuesday, April 23, 2013

What I Found in my 5 Year Old's Diary

One of my friends posted this article on her Facebook page. I read it with some skepticism. I mean, really?! How concerned do you have to be about your 5 year old and what they're writing in their diary? I remember my first diary... I was probably about 5 or 6. It was red and had Hello Kitty on it and the pages inside were pink and had pretty designs on it. It too had a lock and key and made me feel SO important. I remember writing about school in there and writing the names of my friends... Michelle, Jennifer, Katrina, Myndi... I do not remember plotting to take over the world or kill anyone. Just sayin'.

My 5 year old doesn't keep a diary, but I don't ever have to wonder what he's thinking, because he talks All. The. Time. Whether we want him to or not. Most of the time this happens very emphatically and loudly. Sometimes while stomping his feet and saying that life isn't fair and that his big brother is mean! But that's a different story for a different day.

Kennedy, on the other hand, does have a diary of sorts. It's not under lock and key, and she doesn't hide it from us, but we find her writing away in its pages on almost a daily basis. When she sees one of us touching it usually one of her brothers she will point her finger at the offender and say, "Don't touch my book!" and the book is dropped in its place.

No books were touched in the taking of this picture
Sometimes we do get permission to peek into her mysterious book... I've seen lists of spelling words, pictures of kitty cats, drawings of her baby dolls and professions of love for each of us in the family... and yes, sometimes even for Justin Bieber. Who may as well be part of our family as often as he's talked about around here. I see dancers dancing and pictures of flowers and drawings of houses... all the things I used to dream of when I was a little girl (just replace Justin Bieber with Jordan Knight. *ahem*) For sure, words are mispelled and some long sentences are scribbled, and there are some things that no one would be able to make sense of at all... But at 8 years old, I've never felt the need to spy or worry about what Kennedy is writing in her book. They are her dreams, her words, her thoughts.

And when she chooses to share them with us, I take the time to look.

The rest of the time...

I don't touch her book. ;)


Cindy said...

I've had some moms tell me that if it's in their house, it's fair game! I don't agree with that. I'm with you, it's a private journal, until the owner says otherwise. That's sweet that she occasionally lets you peek into her world.

lmworley416 said...

Have mixed feelings about looking at things behind a child's back. A friend that posted the article on FB was appalled that the mother would do such a thing.
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Anne B. said...

Reading might have been a mother's "privilege" (although I'm not sure I believe that unless there was some cause for worry about the child) but posting it on FB???? Wow....I wonder if that little girl will ever "trust" her mom with anything really important. It makes me sad. I'm so glad Kennedy feels like she can share her pink book with you sometimes! (((HUGS)))!!!

Jen T. said...

Shame on that mother for looking, but even more so for sharing in a blog. I agree with Anne B. on that one.

Michelle said...

I have no need to Read Madison's. She still so innocent it's all the things she loves. She will show me something occassionally and I will admit to looking a couple times when she first got it but not a sneaking sort of way, as I had no worries of what she was writing just if :). Love that kid and she will get her diary of privacy until there is a need to peek. That need is if she gives us reason not just cause she's a teen. Kids need private space to write feelings too.

Kim at Let Me Start By Saying said...

Hi Renee,
Thank you for taking the time to contemplate my story, and for sharing it with your fans.
Of course my 5yo talks all the time, and we communicate on a constant basis. If you take a moment to step back, this was about me. My (unfounded) worries as a parent.
I grew up for the past 37 years believing that diaries are mostly to put sad things. It brought light to my heart to see how wrong I was. So many people could use this lesson, too. So many people could use more light in their hearts.
My daughter is happy to know that photos of her diary pages are on the internet (she knows what my job is), and also knows that this was a one-off, a singular special circumstance in which I was trying to spread her joy and love to others. That is why I did what I did.
You can expect to never see her pages again, even if she asks me to.
Kim Bongiorno