Tuesday, July 2, 2013

A Birthday Never Reached...

I have been doing a lot of memorial birthday posts lately for the children from Sandy Hook. This one is a little different though. Aziza is not a Sandy Hook child... she is the daughter of a friend of mine and died suddenly in December. Because Aziza had Down syndrome, our families were connected, if only online, and our community is strong. When Aziza got sick, she had prayers going out for her all over the world. We watched and waited for each update with tears in our eyes, when sadly we learned that there was nothing more the doctors could do and Aziza passed away. It was devastating for all of us near and far to watch this beautiful soul leave this earth. Her death has left a hole in her family that is immense.


The thing I loved most about Aziza, is that she always had a smile on her face, despite having to overcome many obstacles in her short life. She was adopted by my friend and had a rough start, but she soon settled in, and she just glowed with love. The bond between mother and child was strong and love oozed from every picture, every story...


Aziza had a great love for life. If you were around her long enough you would hear her go into a never-ending fit of giggles which would most likely make you giggle as well. She loved music and every time it played, Aziza never missed the chance to dance to the beat. She loved swinging and sliding. She loved to jump on trampolines and go to splash pads. Her favorite foods were applesauce and avocado, and even though she didn't speak, she communicated through PECS and sign language and definitely made her wants and needs known. ;)


Aziza attended school in a mainstreamed classroom and was in the first grade. After she died, her classmates and teachers honored her memories in so many special ways... At the end of the school year, they had a beautiful service to celebrate her life and install a memorial stone in "Aziza's Garden" which is full of purple flowers - her favorite color. While it was a bittersweet and unexpected ending to Aziza's first grade year, her memory and her legacy will live on in the many classmates and teachers who knew and loved her.


There are so many platitudes that people hand out when a child dies. "She's an angel now." "God must have needed her there more than here." "Heaven is shining a little brighter tonight." The truth is, that no matter how it breaks down, losing a child is the most devastating thing that can happen to a mother and sometimes no words of comfort will help. So today, we step away from those words, however well-meaning, and we focus on celebrating Aziza's life... the joy and light and love she brought to everyone who knew her. We are thankful for her life and the lives of everyone who loved her and poured their hearts into her. She is an amazing little girl who, in six short years, left an incredible mark on the world. I can't wait to meet her one day in Heaven.


Remembering you on your 7th birthday, Aziza... 
We love you so much!!

3 comments :

Anna Theurer said...

A beautiful loving tribute to Aziza. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.

teal915 said...

<3

Notsopc said...

I starting reading her blog when you posted prayers were needed. My heart goes out to your friend each day. What a sweet little girl is must have been. I hope that her mom and sister will be able to begin to start healing and beable to smile again